“Committed decisions show up in two places: your calendar and your bank account.”

I found the quote from Carole Hildebrand (featured in James Clear’s newsletter) thought-provoking. And I indeed took a look at my calendar for the last year. What I found: I made space for things I value (for example, rowing regularly). But there are also so many things in there where I should and could haveContinue reading ““Committed decisions show up in two places: your calendar and your bank account.””

“Any observant local knows more than any visiting scientist. Always. No exceptions.” Roger Payne

This quote really spoke to me when I reflected on what has changed since I left consulting 2.5 years ago. If you don’t know, I worked for a top management consulting firm for almost 8.5 years and was close to the point where my “window” to become a full partner would open. So why didContinue reading ““Any observant local knows more than any visiting scientist. Always. No exceptions.” Roger Payne”

We are all taking things far too personal (in business and beyond)

Thursday afternoon and my colleague asks me what I thought about the meeting this morning – which meeting? I had nothing in my diary. Why was I not invited? Thinking about it, Richard who set up the meeting was not too keen about the project I am driving. He for sure left me off theContinue reading “We are all taking things far too personal (in business and beyond)”

A colleague who value a lot has just resigned. And I am actually happy for him.

At the same time I am sad because he will be missed. But it would be selfish to try to keep him from leaving because I cannot offer him what he needs to take the next step in his career. Back in Cambridge, I had started work on a physics PhD, in a great group,Continue reading “A colleague who value a lot has just resigned. And I am actually happy for him.”

“Double down on what is working best.”

We are often so caught up on where we need to improve but is focusing on our deficits really the best strategy to become the best version of ourselves? I am not particularly musical. So should I spend my time and energy on getting better at reading notes, doing my scales …? Will I enjoyContinue reading ““Double down on what is working best.””

🙄 Why telling someone to “stop being such a coward and take more risks” does not work

Earlier this month, I wrote about the need for humans to belong and be liked and how even the toughest of us sometimes need to be told what we do well. This actually has to do with the different effects of positive and negative feedback. Far too often when we give feedback, we focus onContinue reading “🙄 Why telling someone to “stop being such a coward and take more risks” does not work”

“She has a family, she won’t leave”

One of my friends was working as a postdoc at the time. She had small kids and her husband was also an academic. While academia is prestigious, salaries are not great. Given that and the fact that she had kids, my friend’s university felt that they did not need to promote her (despite her beingContinue reading ““She has a family, she won’t leave””